Sextortion – a form of online blackmail involving intimate, sexual images – is one of the fastest-growing cybercrimes worldwide.

What is sextortion
Sextortion is when someone threatens to share private or sexual images or information about you unless you give them what they want — usually more sexual content, money, or other favours.

How sextortion happens
The predatory blackmailers often pretend to be someone friendly or attractive, sometimes even posing as another teen. They may:

  • Start conversations on social media, gaming platforms, or messaging apps.
  • Hand out compliments to make victim feel special
  • Move the chat to a more private space.
  • Send fake images or videos to gain trust.
  • Encourage the victim to share intimate images.
  • Threaten to share those images unless demands are met – often asking for money or more content.

These scams can move very quickly, sometimes within hours.

Who is at risk
Sextortion can happen to anyone, regardless of age, gender, or background. However, teenagers are especially vulnerable.

Criminals often target young people because they are still developing emotional resilience, may be more trusting online, and can be deeply affected by threats to their reputation or friendships. For some, the shame and fear caused by sextortion can be so overwhelming that it leads to isolation, depression, and in tragic cases, suicide.

Talking openly about this crime before it happens can be the difference between a child suffering in silence and reaching out for help.

Why open conversations matter
Because sextortion is a relatively new crime, many parents have never experienced anything like it growing up. Children may worry that their parents won’t understand or will judge them harshly. That’s why it’s important to normalise the topic as part of everyday online safety discussions.

You can say things like:

  • “You’re growing up in a different world from the one I knew. There are people online who target young people, and it’s not your fault if they try with you.”
  • “If anyone ever sends you a message, picture, or video that makes you uncomfortable, please know you can come to me straight away – I will believe you, and we’ll work through it together.”
  • “These scams are common. Good people get caught up in them all the time. It doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong.”

These conversations help your child see you as an ally, not someone who will punish them.

If your teen is targeted
Stay calm and reassure them that they are the victim of a crime.
Do not pay – it rarely stops the threats.
Save all evidence – take screenshots, note usernames and links.
Block and report the perpetrator on the platform.
Delete the person’s social media profile
Reassure them that you have their back and will deal with the fallout, together.

Practical information
If the image was taken when your child was under 18, use the Take It Down tool to help remove it: www.takeitdown.ncmec.org
Contact the Namibian Film Commission for help removing harmful or illegal content: Email: info@nfc.na, Phone: +264 61 381 900; Website:https://nfc.na/contact

Seek immediate emotional support – sextortion can cause intense distress.

For expert legal insight on sextortion and how to respond, read Emma Sadleir’s article:
The sextortion scam – The Digital Law Company

Sextortion is a crime that thrives on secrecy and shame. By talking about it openly, you can give your child the confidence to come to you immediately if it ever happens – and the reassurance that you will stand by them, no matter what.

Please reach out to LifeAssist to support you and your family through stressful times – there are no costs to speak to counsellors and coaches.