Loneliness: More than a feeling

“Loneliness.” It’s a word we hear often, but its impact is hugely underestimated because it is a feeling that most people desperately try to hide.

Loneliness is not just about being physically alone; it’s a deep, subjective feeling of disconnection and isolation, even when surrounded by people. It’s a hidden struggle, affecting people of all ages and backgrounds, and one that can have devastating consequences for both mental and physical health.

The World Health Organization¹estimates that 1 in 4 older people experience social isolation, and between 5% and 15% of adolescents experience loneliness. This isn’t just a fleeting feeling; it’s a serious issue that can lead to depression, anxiety, heart disease, a weakened immune system, and even premature mortality.

There’s a difference between emotional loneliness, which is the absence of intimate relationships, and social loneliness, where there is a lack of access to a broader social network. You can experience one without the other, or, both at the same time. Loneliness can be temporary, triggered by a life event like losing a loved one, a move, or a breakup. However, it can become chronic, where it develops into a persistent and deeply damaging experience.

The impact on mental and physical health

The psychological implications of loneliness are significant. It increases the risk of depression, anxiety, and even suicidal thoughts. It can impair cognitive function, affecting memory, attention, and decision-making.²

But the impact goes beyond mental health. Chronic loneliness is linked to increased risk of heart disease, a weakened immune system, sleep disturbances, and even premature mortality. It takes a serious toll on the body. It can also lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms like substance abuse or social withdrawal, making the situation worse.

Why are we becoming lonelier?

So why is loneliness becoming such a big problem? While connecting us globally, our rapidly evolving technological world can also contribute to superficial connections and a decline in face-to-face interaction. Social media can fuel feelings of inadequacy and unrealistic comparisons. Our fast-paced, individualistic society often prioritises independence at the expense of community and social support. And, unfortunately, there’s still a stigma around loneliness, making people ashamed to admit they’re struggling.

This shame is one of the reasons people hide their loneliness. They fear judgement, believing they’ll be seen as weak or socially awkward. They may feel they should be able to cope on their own, seeing loneliness as a personal failing. Some even hide it to protect their loved ones from worry.

When do you need help?

If feelings of loneliness persist for more than a few weeks and start impacting your daily life – your sleep, appetite, work, or relationships – it’s time to reach out. If you’re experiencing other mental health symptoms like depression or anxiety alongside loneliness, professional support is crucial. And, most importantly, if you have any thoughts of harming yourself, seek immediate help.

Thankfully, there are many resources available. Therapy can help you explore the root causes of your loneliness and develop coping strategies. Support groups offer connections with others who understand what you’re going through. Joining clubs, volunteering, or participating in community events can help you build social connections. Practicing mindfulness and self-compassion can also be beneficial.

It’s possible to overcome loneliness and build meaningful connections. Don’t be afraid to reach out to loved ones, seek professional help if you’re battling, and challenge the stigma surrounding loneliness.

If you are struggling, don’t hesitate to reach out to LifeAssist.

Addressing loneliness: Take away messages

Loneliness is more than just a feeling: It’s a serious issue that affects both our mental and physical health.
It can happen even when you’re around people: Feeling disconnected and isolated is key.
Loneliness is common: It affects people of all ages, from teenagers to seniors.
It can be triggered by life events or be an ongoing struggle.
Loneliness can impact your mood and your physical health: It can contribute to depression, anxiety, and even heart problems.
It’s easy to hide loneliness: Many people suffer in silence.
Our tech-focused world can sometimes make us feel more isolated: Despite being ‘connected’, we can still feel disconnected. If loneliness is affecting your life, don’t keep it to yourself: Help is available.
There are many ways to find support: Talking to a therapist, joining a group, or connecting with your community can help.
You’re not alone: Many people experience loneliness, and things can improve.

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