We often find ourselves caught up in worrying about things that are beyond our control—other people’s opinions, past mistakes, or even global events. This constant worry can lead to stress, anxiety, and frustration, all of which take a toll on our mental health. Learning to let go of what you can’t control, and instead focusing on what you can, is a powerful way to relieve stress and improve your overall wellbeing.
What You CAN Control
First, let’s focus on what you can control. You have control over your responses, habits, mindset, and the amount of effort you put into different areas of your life.
- Your responses: While you can’t control what others say or do, you can decide how you react. Responding calmly to stressful situations, rather than with anger or frustration, can dramatically reduce stress.
- Your habits: You can take charge of your daily routines, including what you eat, how often you exercise, and how well you sleep. These habits directly impact both your physical and mental health, giving you a sense of control over your wellbeing.
- Your mindset: Your thoughts and attitudes are within your grasp. Cultivating a positive outlook, even in challenging situations, can help improve your mood and resilience.
- Your effort: How much work you put into your goals, relationships, or self-care is up to you. Committing to these areas allows you to see progress and feel accomplished.
What You CANNOT Control
On the other hand, many things are outside of your control, and dwelling on them can drain your energy and lead to feelings of helplessness.
- Other people’s opinions: You can’t change how others view or judge you, and trying to do so only causes unnecessary stress. It’s more productive to focus on being the best version of yourself.
- The past: What’s done is done. Replaying past mistakes in your mind won’t change anything, but it will prevent you from moving forward.
- The future: Nobody knows for sure what tomorrow will bring. It is no use to get anxious about possibilities and challenges lies ahead.
- External events: Whether it’s the state of the economy, politics, or global crises, these are things you have little to no control over. Instead of worrying, focus on how you can adapt and thrive within your own circumstances.
The Mental Health Shift
When you accept what’s outside your control and shift your focus to what you can change, you’ll notice a significant improvement in your mental health. Letting go reduces anxiety, frustration, and the feeling of being overwhelmed. In turn, you’ll feel more empowered, more focused, and more at peace.
Spend your energy wisely, and you’ll find relief in the things you can control. If you are battling with you mental health – please reach out to a caring and confidential counsellor – they can help you at no cost. You deserve to love your life!