We’ve been told to stay at home to keep ourselves safe, but not all of us are safe at home. Globally gender-based violence (GBV) rates increase during times of crisis – like natural disasters, wars, and pandemics. South Africa is no different. According to Police Minister Bheki Cele, the police received more than 2300 GBV complaints during the first week of lockdown in South Africa.

For many women and children, lockdown means being trapped inside with their abuser for an extended period. The consequences of this are significant. Uncertainty and anxiety leading to increased stress levels may aggravate the violence and being confined with your abuser indefinitely can intensify feelings of helplessness. Victims are no longer able to escape the violence by leaving the house, and due to a lack of privacy they are also less likely to access help during this period. In addition, overloaded healthcare systems mean that getting medical treatment if they are hurt is not always possible or that they won’t go to the hospital for fear of contracting the virus.

If someone you know is being abused

If you suspect that someone you know is being abused, make contact and check up on them regularly. Social support can go a long way to combatting isolation, even if the conversation isnt explicitly about the abuse. If they do mention the abuse, don’t judge. Listen and offer practical support, such as helpline numbers or assistance opening a case with SAPS. Remind them that it is not their fault and that help is available.

If you are being abused

You are not alone. It is best to speak to a professional from one of the organisations listed below who can offer guidance on the options that are available to you.

You will be assisted with a Safety Plan based on your specific situation. Whether you are ready to leave or not, safety planning can save your life.

Safety planning may include:

  • Memorising a list of emergency contacts
  • Always be prepared to leave – have important documents, cash, a spare car key, clothes etc. stored somewhere accessible
  • Have a safe space in the house that you can retreat to when you sense tension building
  • Check for apps on your phone that allow your abuser to monitor you in any way
  • Look into getting dangerous weapons removed from the house
  • A plan to keep yourself safe if you do decide to leave

A case can also be opened with SAPS and the courts are open during lockdown to attend to emergency cases.

Help is a phone call away:

If you are in immediate danger:  10111

The Gender-Based Violence Command Centre:

  • “Please call me” facility: *120*7867#
  • Emergency line: 0800 428 428

SADAG (South African Depression and Anxiety Group:

  • WhatsApp counselling line: 076 882 2775 (9am – 4pm)
  • Emergency line: 0800 567 567

You can also reach out to your LIfeAssist Employee Wellbeing Programme for counselling and guidance.

 

Author:  Tarryn Davisson. BA Psychology Honours. Registered Counsellor registered with the HPCSA
Sources: SADAG
Date: 6 April 2020