Holidays can sometimes leave us more drained than refreshed—especially when one person takes on the bulk of the extra chores. Instead of feeling rested and energised for the new year, you might find yourself exhausted and resentful.
With a bit of forethought, though, you can create a balanced, enjoyable holiday that ensures everyone has their fair share of ‘me time,’ shares responsibilities, and makes the most of family time without overspending.
Here’s how to make that happen:
- Set Goals and Expectations Together as a Family
Start by gathering the family to discuss what each person wants from the holidays, whether it’s rest, hobbies, outings, or time with friends. Establish rules for device usage, personal space, and chores, so everyone is clear on their roles and avoids misunderstandings. - Rotate Chores to Share the Load
Create a daily or weekly chore roster where each family member is responsible for specific tasks, from tidying up to laundry. Break down meal prep duties (shopping, cooking, setting the table, clearing up) so that everyone pitches in, making mealtimes feel more collaborative and less like a one-person job. - Balance ‘Me Time’ and Family Activities
Ensure everyone has regular, uninterrupted time to themselves to recharge, including both parents and kids. Plan some family activities (like outings or game nights) but leave room for spontaneous choices. This avoids over-scheduling while still giving the holidays a steady rhythm. - Create a Budget and Involve Everyone in Planning
Discuss your holiday budget for outings, treats, and activities so everyone knows what’s possible. Encourage family members to suggest budget-friendly activities, like movie nights at home, picnics at the park, or beach days if you’re nearby. Bring your own snacks to reduce restaurant costs, turning outings into low-cost, fun-filled experiences. - Plan Meals Together for Healthier, Cheaper Eating
Plan your meals with simple, budget-friendly recipes using seasonal ingredients and pantry staples. Let each person pick a meal for the week and help with shopping and prep. This keeps meals varied, reduces pressure on the main cook, and builds kids’ cooking skills. Don’t forget to schedule a couple of “leftovers” or “build your own meal” nights to cut down on waste. - Try a Fun Home Improvement Project
Use the holiday time to tackle a small project that could improve your space and teach new skills. Whether painting a wall, creating a vegetable patch, making curtains, or even refreshing old kitchen handles, these DIY activities bring a fresh feel to your home while creating a sense of accomplishment. - Declutter and Recycle
Encourage the kids to go through their wardrobes for pre-loved items that can be donated or sold. Clean out the junk drawer and recycle unused stationery from the school year. Clearing out the old invites new energy for the year ahead, creating space for what’s to come. - Plan for New Habits in the Year Ahead
Use this time to reflect together on what’s working well with shared responsibilities. Talk about how each family member’s contributions make a difference. You can even set new goals and discuss how these changes might continue into the new year, encouraging kids to take on age-appropriate responsibilities or sharing ideas with your partner on what could be done differently.
The holidays are no time to be a martyr. Taking on everything yourself doesn’t make the season more joyful—it just leads to stress and frustration. Share the responsibilities and set healthy boundaries and allow yourself (and everyone else) to truly relax and enjoy the festive season. Embrace the spirit of teamwork and trust that those around you can help lighten the load.
The result? A happier, more harmonious holiday where everyone’s needs are met, and you can welcome the new year refreshed, not resentful.
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