Gender-based violence and Femicide (GBVF) leaves scars that reach far beyond the individual. Its impact stretches across generations, shaping the way children understand relationships, power, and self-worth. Unless broken, this cycle repeats itself—passed down from parent to child and on to the next generation.

Understanding intergenerational violence
When children grow up in homes where abuse, fear, or control are present, they learn to see these behaviours as normal. A boy who witnesses violence may believe aggression is a way to show power, while a girl who experiences it may accept mistreatment as part of love.

Research shows that children exposed to GBVF are more likely to experience it again in adult relationships or commit violence as adults. This isn’t destiny—but it does mean that without intervention, cycles of harm are tragically common.

Why the cycle continues
The reasons are complex, but often include:

  • Normalisation of violence – abuse becomes part of everyday life.
  • Unresolved trauma – unhealed wounds shape future behaviour and choices.
  • Economic and social pressures – poverty, inequality, and lack of support make leaving violent situations harder.
  • Silence and stigma – shame and fear stop victims from speaking out, keeping the pattern hidden.

Breaking the cycle
Ending intergenerational violence requires collective action. No one person or programme can do it alone, but together, the cycle can be interrupted.

  • Healing trauma: Breaking silence, seeking therapy, and acknowledging pain allows individuals to stop the pattern before it continues.
  • Role models and positive examples: Showing that love, strength, and masculinity can exist without violence gives children a new path to follow.
  • Education and awareness: Teaching children about healthy relationships, respect, and consent from an early age helps challenge harmful beliefs.
  • Support for survivors: Accessible counselling, safe shelters, and financial assistance empower victims to rebuild their lives.
  • Community responsibility: Families, neighbours, schools, and faith groups all have a role to play in recognising warning signs and offering support.

Breaking the cycle of GBVF isn’t just about changing individual lives—it’s about reshaping entire societies. When we protect children, support survivors, and challenge harmful norms, we are building a future where violence is no longer repeated but replaced with safety, dignity, and respect. If you are a victim of abuse, or want to be a part of the solution, reach out to our counsellors to get support, 24 hours a day.