Let’s be honest: the internet and social media have become integral parts of all our lives. While these platforms offer incredible opportunities for learning, communication, and self-expression, they also present significant risks, especially for the younger generation. Guiding the youth to use digital technology responsibly, respectfully, critically, and creatively is vital. Drawing insights from the Social Media and Youth Mental Health Advisory 2023 by the US Surgeon General, let’s embrace the journey.

Understanding the risks

Before addressing solutions, it’s essential to understand the dangers lurking in the virtual world. Social media can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it’s a gateway to knowledge and connectivity; on the other, it can be a platform for cyberbullying, exploitation, and exposure to inappropriate content. These negative experiences can lead to severe mental health issues like depression, anxiety, and sleep disturbances.

Reportedly, a significant number of young users admit to being addicted to social media, and many share discomfort from unwanted online contacts. Despite age restrictions, an alarming number of children under 11 years of age have accounts on major platforms, making them vulnerable to various online threats.

Tips for parents and guardians

  • Open communication: Create a safe space where kids feel comfortable sharing their online experiences. Ask questions and let them explain their understanding of safety to you so you can gauge their awareness. Learn about the risks associated with various ever-evolving social media platforms.
  • Privacy and security awareness: Discuss with your kids the importance of protecting personal information online. This includes location settings, status visibility, handling random friend requests, and the content they encounter. Remind them that their digital footprint will be online forever, accessible to future employers.
  • Active monitoring: Keep an eye on your child’s social media profiles and interactions, and stay informed about the platforms they use. Utilise family-sharing facilities to require permission to download any app.
  • Monitor usage and purchases: Regularly check your and your child’s accounts for any unexpected or unauthorised transactions. Enable parental controls on devices to prevent unintentional or unauthorised purchases. This can include requiring a password for any in-app purchases. Be aware of some refund policies.
  • Setting boundaries: Setting restrictions is challenging, as ‘everyone’ seems to be using certain platforms. Remember, age restrictions exist for good reasons. Establish screen time limits and rules, such as usage after homework or on weekends only, and adhere to content guidelines. Having these rules in writing, agreed upon in advance, can reduce conflict and frustration in your home.
  • Promoting offline activities: Encourage activities, hobbies, and family time that don’t involve devices.
  • Role modelling: Show responsible social media use. Practice active listening and interactions by putting your phone away completely during conversations, making them feel important and heard.
  • Staying informed: Keep up with the latest trends and potential risks in the digital world. Knowledge is your best defence.
  • Seeking support: Collaborate with your child’s friend circles to limit gaming time and impose restrictions. Encourage older children to share their experiences of hurtful behaviour or risky situations. Be alert to signs of mental health issues, and don’t hesitate to seek professional help if needed.

Empowering the younger generation

Parental guidance is critical, but empowering children to navigate the digital world safely and responsibly is equally important. Social media and online activities are here to stay, so they may as well learn to benefit fully from the positive aspects.

  • Critical thinking: Teach them to question what they see online and understand that not everything on social media reflects reality.
  • Financial security: Many games and apps designed for children and teenagers encourage in-app purchases using persuasive tactics. Discuss how in-game currency translates into real-world money.
  • Digital literacy: Educate them about the digital footprint and the long-term implications of their online activities, including future job searches.
  • Creative use of technology: Encourage them to use digital platforms for learning, creativity, and positive self-expression.
  • Managing instant gratification: The ease of making online purchases can lead to impulsive spending, particularly among younger users who may not fully understand the value of money.
  • Building digital resilience: Help them develop skills to cope with online challenges, like handling cyberbullying or reporting inappropriate content.

Our school system in South Africa tries to educate our learners through the Life Orientation subject. However, the ultimate responsibility lies with us as parents or guardians. Establishing a healthy structure focused on the wellbeing of both the family unit and the individual is an investment worth making.

Parenting is challenging! If you need more advice or action plans to improve communication and implement healthy boundaries to protect your family, then reach out to a counsellor on WhatsApp 061 438 7903 or email help@lifeassist.co.za, and they will call you back at a convenient time.

 

Source: UNICEF’s SA Kids Online Study
Social Media and Youth Mental Health Advisory 2023 by the US Surgeon General