{"id":11615,"date":"2020-11-30T16:05:27","date_gmt":"2020-11-30T16:05:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/yourlifeassist.co.za\/sizani\/putting-the-differences-aside\/"},"modified":"2021-03-24T11:36:02","modified_gmt":"2021-03-24T11:36:02","slug":"putting-the-differences-aside","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourlifeassist.co.za\/sizani\/putting-the-differences-aside\/","title":{"rendered":"Putting the differences aside"},"content":{"rendered":"

In any relationship, there is bound to be conflict from time to time, and that is no different in relationships between family members.<\/p>\n

Emotional intelligence (EQ) in the context of the family comes down to the following basic principle.\u00a0 It is a balance between your short-term needs (expressing frustration when a family member does something that makes you angry) versus your long-term desire for the relationship (continued good family relations).\u00a0 It is finding a balance between immediately responding to a situation in an angry or aggressive manner or waiting until you are calm to address the issue in a constructive and rational way.\u00a0 In order to control your angry outburst, you first need to develop your self-awareness (recognising early on in a conversation that you are getting irritated) and self-regulation (finding ways to manage one\u2019s negative emotions or disruptive emotions).<\/p>\n

EQ does not mean that you avoid conflict, but rather that you address it constructively in order to ensure your long-term desire for a happy and productive relationship.<\/p>\n

So how you handle the conflict is more important than the actual conflict. Your approach can either be helpful or unhelpful. Let\u2019s look at ways to constructively handle conflict within your family:<\/p>\n