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7 Relationship Killer and Builders

In all relationships, harmful habits can often strain connections and lead to breakdowns in communication and trust. By taking a good hard look at your habits and replacing them with caring, nurturing ones, you can build stronger, healthier relationships.

Here’s a comparison:

7 Deadly Habits	7 Caring Habits
Criticising	Supporting
Blaming	Encouraging
Complaining	Listening
Nagging	Accepting
Threatening	Trusting
Punishing	Respecting
Bribing/Rewarding to Control	Negotiating Differences

The ‘deadly’ habits can be harmful to relationships because they undermine trust, communication, and mutual respect. Criticising, blaming, and complaining create a negative atmosphere that can make a partner feel attacked or inadequate, eroding emotional connection.

Nagging leads to frustration and resentment, while threatening and punishing foster fear and insecurity rather than resolving issues. Bribing or rewarding to control manipulates the relationship dynamic, creating imbalance and limiting genuine understanding.

Altogether, these behaviours prevent healthy conflict resolution and hinder the development of a supportive and loving partnership. To replace the ‘deadly’ habits with ‘caring’ ones, a conscious effort is required. Here are steps you can take to achieve this:

Self-awareness – Start by recognising when – and why- you engage in one of the deadly habits. Reflection is key; ask yourself, “What am I doing or saying that might harm this relationship?” Journaling or discussing these patterns with a trusted friend or counsellor can help you become more conscious of your behaviours.
Mindful Choice – Once you’ve identified a negative habit, consciously choose a caring habit to replace it. For example, if you tend to criticise, try to shift to encouragement by focusing on the person’s strengths rather than their flaws. Take a pause before speaking and ask yourself, “How can I approach this in a more positive, caring way?”
Practice and Patience – Change doesn’t happen overnight. Begin by practising the caring habits in small interactions, and gradually apply them more broadly. Be patient with yourself and the other person, as replacing deeply ingrained habits can take time.
Seek Feedback – Engage your partner, friend, or family member in the process. Ask for feedback about how they experience your behaviour and how you can improve. This opens up channels for mutual growth and helps to solidify new habits in the relationship.
Celebrate Progress – Acknowledge and celebrate small successes. When you successfully replace a deadly habit with a caring one, take a moment to appreciate the positive impact it has on the relationship.

Replacing harmful habits with caring habits not only improves communication but also builds trust, respect, and a sense of security in relationships. Just by being conscious of them, you can start to shift your choices. And don’t forget to share this valuable life lesson with young children as they start to build their relationships. If you need support, please reach out to LifeAssist– there is a caring professional to talk to.

(Seven habits are based on the Choice theory, William Glasser)

zara2024-09-27T08:06:15+00:00

The Connection between Social Media and Suicide

Social media platforms have become a ubiquitous part of everyday life. They offer endless opportunities for connection, entertainment, and self-expression. However, alongside the many benefits of social media lies a darker side, one that has raised increasing concerns among mental health professionals: the connection between social media and suicide.

The Influence of Social Media on Mental Health

Social media can have a profound impact on mental health, particularly among young people and vulnerable persons. While platforms can provide a sense of community and support, they can also exacerbate feelings of loneliness, inadequacy, and depression. The constant barrage of images and posts that highlight the ‘perfect’ lives of others can lead to harmful comparisons and a distorted sense of self-worth.

Research has shown that individuals who spend excessive amounts of time on social media are more likely to experience mental health issues, including depression and anxiety. These issues, if left unaddressed, can increase the risk of suicidal thoughts and behaviours. The anonymity and lack of face-to-face interaction on social media can also make it easier for individuals to express these thoughts without seeking help, creating a dangerous cycle.

Cyberbullying and Its Consequences

One of the most significant ways social media contributes to suicide risk is through cyberbullying. Unlike traditional bullying, cyberbullying can be relentless, with no escape for the victim. Harassment, threats, and public shaming can be amplified and perpetuated across platforms, leading to severe emotional distress.

Victims of cyberbullying often feel trapped and powerless, with no way to defend themselves or escape the torment. This overwhelming sense of hopelessness can lead some individuals to consider suicide as their only way out. Tragically, there have been numerous high-profile cases where young people have taken their own lives after being targeted by online bullies.

The Impact on Adolescents

The U.S. Surgeon General’s Advisory released the following: “Up to 95% of young people aged 13-17 report using a social media platform. Nearly two-thirds of teenagers report using social media every day and one third report using social media “almost constantly.” “The types of use and content children and adolescents are exposed to pose mental health concerns. Children and adolescents who spend more than 3 hours a day on social media face double the risk of mental health problems including experiencing symptoms of depression and anxiety. This is concerning as a recent survey showed that teenagers spend an average of 3.5 hours a day on social media. And when asked about the impact of social media on their body image, 46% of adolescents aged 13-17 said social media makes them feel worse.”. For more details, refer to the US Surgeon General’s advisory.

The Role of Social Media in Suicide Contagion

Social media can also contribute to a phenomenon known as suicide contagion. When suicide is sensationalised or widely discussed on these platforms, it can sometimes lead to a ‘copycat’ effect, where vulnerable individuals are influenced to take their own lives. This is particularly concerning when graphic images, detailed methods, or glorification of suicide are shared.

The rapid spread of information on social media means that news of a suicide can reach a vast audience almost instantly. While raising awareness about mental health and suicide prevention is critical, there is a fine line between education and harmful exposure. The way suicide is portrayed on social media can have a significant impact on how it is perceived and acted upon by others.

The Potential for Positive Change

Despite the risks, social media also has the potential to be a force for good in suicide prevention. These platforms can be powerful tools for raising awareness, sharing resources, and providing support to those in need. Online communities, mental health campaigns, and hotlines can reach individuals who might not otherwise seek help.

By promoting responsible use of social media and encouraging open conversations about mental health, we can enjoy the positive aspects of these platforms while minimising the risks. Social media companies need to take responsibility by implementing stricter content moderation policies, offering crisis support, and collaborating with mental health organisations.

As individuals, we can contribute by being mindful of our social media habits, supporting friends and loved ones who may be struggling, and advocating for safer online environments. By working together, we can help ensure that social media becomes a platform for positive change rather than a catalyst for tragedy.

If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please reach out to a mental health professional at LifeAssist or contact a suicide prevention hotline in your area. Remember, help is always available, and you are not alone.

zara2024-08-31T08:52:19+00:00

Get physical, together!

Our lives are intertwined with technology – computers, gaming consoles, and social media have become integral parts of our daily routines. While these advancements have brought numerous benefits, they have also introduced significant challenges to our physical wellbeing. The modern sedentary lifestyle, driven by prolonged screen time and outdoor safety concerns, is having profound effects on our health – our eyesight, posture, weight management and diabetes, and mental health concerns.

Engaging in regular physical activity is essential for maintaining overall health and countering the negative effects of a sedentary lifestyle. Here are some reasons why staying active is so important:

Improved Physical Health: Regular exercise helps in maintaining a healthy weight, improving cardiovascular health, and strengthening muscles and bones.
Mental Wellbeing: Physical activity releases endorphins, which are natural mood lifters. It can reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety, improve self-esteem, and enhance cognitive function.
Better Sleep: Exercise can help regulate sleep patterns, leading to more restful and rejuvenating sleep.
Social Interaction: Participating in group activities, whether sports or fitness classes, provides opportunities for socialising and building community connections.

With busy schedules, especially for parents, finding time for physical activity can be challenging. Here are some strategies to motivate yourself and your family to stay active:

Set Realistic Goals: Start with small, achievable goals. Whether it’s a daily walk, a quick workout, or a weekend hike, setting realistic targets can help build consistency.
Incorporate Activity into Daily Routine: Find ways to include physical activity in your daily routine. Walk or cycle to work, take the stairs instead of the lift, or have a standing desk.
Make It Fun: Choose activities that you enjoy. Dancing, playing a sport, or trying out a new fitness class can make exercise feel less like a chore and more like a fun activity.
Family Activities: Plan family outings that involve physical activity, such as bike rides, hikes, or playing a sport together. It’s a great way to bond and stay healthy as a family.
Limit Screen Time: Set boundaries for screen time, both for yourself and your children. Encourage breaks during long periods of screen use and promote other hobbies that don’t involve screens.
Create a Support System: Engage friends or family members in your fitness goals. Having a workout buddy can provide motivation and accountability.
Use Technology Wisely: Use fitness apps or wearables that track your activity levels and provide reminders to move. These tools can help you stay on track and make exercise more engaging.
Make it a Habit: Use a reward system to encourage routine and frequency. Before you know it, it will be a part of your everyday lifestyle.

Staying active doesn’t have to be a daunting task. With a little creativity and commitment, you can find enjoyable ways to keep yourself and your family healthy and active in today’s digital age. If you would like some dietary advice or support from a Biokineticist, if you are recovering from an injury, connect with the LifeAssist team. This service is free to you and your family.

zara2024-07-30T14:33:25+00:00

Being an Involved dad

Statistically, only about 1/3 of children are being raised by both parents in South Africa. A child needs the love, guidance, and presence of both parents to thrive. While the role of mothers is often highlighted, fathers play an equally vital part in the development of their children. The unique contributions of each parent complement one another, creating a balanced and supportive environment for the child’s growth

Being an involved dad means more than just being physically there. It involves active engagement in your child’s life, from participating in daily routines to being emotionally available. Studies show children with involved fathers are likelier to excel academically, exhibit healthy behaviours, and develop strong social skills.

We can be more present by focusing on:

Quality Time: Dedicate time each day to interact with your children without distractions.
Active Listening: Show genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings.
Consistency: Establish and maintain routines that provide stability and security.

One of the significant challenges modern fathers face is balancing professional responsibilities with family commitments. Achieving this balance requires thoughtful planning and prioritisation. You can:

Set Boundaries: Clearly define work hours and family time to prevent overlap.
Flexible Working: Explore options like remote work or flexible schedules.
Delegation: Share household responsibilities with your partner to lighten the load.

Active parenting is about being involved in all aspects of your child’s life, from education to extracurricular activities. It creates a deeper connection and supports your child’s development. You can engage more:

Participate in School Activities: Attend parent-teacher meetings, school events, and help with homework.
Encourage Hobbies: Support and engage in your child’s interests and hobbies.
Play Together: Spend time playing games or engaging in activities that your child enjoys.

Fathers play an important role in modelling emotional intelligence and resilience. Demonstrating these qualities helps children develop their own coping skills and emotional awareness. You can be conscious to:

Express Emotions: Show your children that it’s okay to express feelings and discuss emotions openly.
Problem-Solving: Demonstrate healthy ways to handle stress and solve problems.
Empathy: Teach empathy by showing understanding and compassion towards others.

Reach out to LifeAssist who can help with family issues and legal opinion to support the mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing of both parents and children.

zara2024-05-31T10:12:58+00:00

“Giving children a healthy start in life, no matter where they are born or the
circumstances of their birth it the moral obligation of every one of us”

NELSON MANDELA

Child Protection Week calls on every South African to take a stand and uphold the rights of children as articulated in the Constitution of the Republic of South Africa and Children’s Act (Act No. 38 of 2005).

Let us be challenged to look beyond our individual lives and engage in a united effort to safeguard our children. The call to action is clear and urgent: every South African is tasked with ensuring that our children do not suffer abuse or become victims of human trafficking. This appeal is not just to parents and guardians but to neighbours, teachers, community leaders, and indeed, anyone who can make a difference.

The campaign promotes resources, like 24-hour helplines for victims of gender-based violence, like Childline South Africa, TEARS and Child Welfare South Africa.

The amended Children’s Act reflects a broader commitment to these goals by strengthening the legal framework to support the rights and wellbeing of children. The act introduces new procedures and enhanced court capabilities – ensuring that children’s issues are handled with the care and priority they deserve.

Watch a Human Rights lawyer, Rebecca, explain the amendments.

If you need to know how to get help for a child or adult who is being abused, reach out to LifeAsssist for guidance, trauma counselling, or legal advice.

zara2024-05-02T13:06:49+00:00

Teen suicide in South Africa: A real crisis

Globally, teen suicide is a leading cause of death among young people. There is a marked increase in suicide rates globally and in South Africa as new societal pressures present themselves. Research has shown that extended exposure to social media is contributing to these increasing rates of suicide in teens and pre-teens. We need to overcome the stigma of suicide and mental health by having more open conversations at school and at home. This will give us the opportunity to support the mental wellbeing of our country’s youth.

Suicides rarely happen without warning, and learning and recognising these signals is the most effective way to prevent suicide.

The South African Society of Psychiatrists (SASOP) has identified several complex and multifaceted factors.

Mental health issues like depression and anxiety
Socioeconomic challenges
Trauma and violence exposure
Substance abuse
Family and relationship problems
Academic and social pressures
Social media bullying, harassment, body shaming, and distorted reality perceptions

Tackling this issue requires a multi-pronged approach. Strategies include:

Awareness and education: Increasing awareness about mental health and suicide among teens, parents, educators, and the broader community.
Access to mental health services: Increasing the availability and accessibility of mental health services and considering private-public partnerships alongside government.
Support systems: Strengthening support systems in schools, churches, families, and communities to provide a safety net for at-risk teens.
Policy and advocacy: Encouraging government policies in schools that address mental health issues and suicide prevention.
Research and monitoring: Continuously monitoring the situation and researching to understand the evolving dynamics of teen suicide in South Africa.
Combating stigmatisation: Actively working to reduce the stigma surrounding mental health issues. Educating the public to change perceptions and attitudes about mental illness and suicide, where seeking help is encouraged and supported.
Limiting social media: Research has shown that young adults who use social media are three times as likely to suffer from depression, putting a large portion of the population at risk for suicidal thoughts and behaviours.
Educating risks of social media: Make teens aware of the various mental health challenges, including addictive behaviours, dependency, anxiety, loneliness, and sleep disturbances.

The high rate of teen suicide in South Africa is a public health emergency that requires immediate and sustained intervention.

For more detailed information, please refer to SASOP (www.sasop.co.za/teen-suicide).

Take any mention of suicide among teens seriously; whether it’s a direct statement or a hint in conversation, any talk of suicide should be reported immediately to a responsible adult, law enforcement or a healthcare professional. This vigilant approach can lead to timely intervention and potentially save lives. LifeAssist has emergency 24-hour support on 0800 060 026 should you be in a crisis.

Counsellors are also available to support you and your family telephonically or in person to help with anxiety, depression and mental health problems.
Get in touch now.

zara2024-01-31T15:17:41+00:00

A parent’s guide to child-friendly digital life

Let’s be honest: the internet and social media have become integral parts of all our lives. While these platforms offer incredible opportunities for learning, communication, and self-expression, they also present significant risks, especially for the younger generation. Guiding the youth to use digital technology responsibly, respectfully, critically, and creatively is vital. Drawing insights from the Social Media and Youth Mental Health Advisory 2023 by the US Surgeon General, let’s embrace the journey.

Understanding the risks

Before addressing solutions, it’s essential to understand the dangers lurking in the virtual world. Social media can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it’s a gateway to knowledge and connectivity; on the other, it can be a platform for cyberbullying, exploitation, and exposure to inappropriate content. These negative experiences can lead to severe mental health issues like depression, anxiety, and sleep disturbances.

Reportedly, a significant number of young users admit to being addicted to social media, and many share discomfort from unwanted online contacts. Despite age restrictions, an alarming number of children under 11 years of age have accounts on major platforms, making them vulnerable to various online threats.

Tips for parents and guardians

Open communication: Create a safe space where kids feel comfortable sharing their online experiences. Ask questions and let them explain their understanding of safety to you so you can gauge their awareness. Learn about the risks associated with various ever-evolving social media platforms.
Privacy and security awareness: Discuss with your kids the importance of protecting personal information online. This includes location settings, status visibility, handling random friend requests, and the content they encounter. Remind them that their digital footprint will be online forever, accessible to future employers.
Active monitoring: Keep an eye on your child’s social media profiles and interactions, and stay informed about the platforms they use. Utilise family-sharing facilities to require permission to download any app.
Monitor usage and purchases: Regularly check your and your child’s accounts for any unexpected or unauthorised transactions. Enable parental controls on devices to prevent unintentional or unauthorised purchases. This can include requiring a password for any in-app purchases. Be aware of some refund policies.
Setting boundaries: Setting restrictions is challenging, as ‘everyone’ seems to be using certain platforms. Remember, age restrictions exist for good reasons. Establish screen time limits and rules, such as usage after homework or on weekends only, and adhere to content guidelines. Having these rules in writing, agreed upon in advance, can reduce conflict and frustration in your home.
Promoting offline activities: Encourage activities, hobbies, and family time that don’t involve devices.
Role modelling: Show responsible social media use. Practice active listening and interactions by putting your phone away completely during conversations, making them feel important and heard.
Staying informed: Keep up with the latest trends and potential risks in the digital world. Knowledge is your best defence.
Seeking support: Collaborate with your child’s friend circles to limit gaming time and impose restrictions. Encourage older children to share their experiences of hurtful behaviour or risky situations. Be alert to signs of mental health issues, and don’t hesitate to seek professional help if needed.

Empowering the younger generation

Parental guidance is critical, but empowering children to navigate the digital world safely and responsibly is equally important. Social media and online activities are here to stay, so they may as well learn to benefit fully from the positive aspects.

Critical thinking: Teach them to question what they see online and understand that not everything on social media reflects reality.
Financial security: Many games and apps designed for children and teenagers encourage in-app purchases using persuasive tactics. Discuss how in-game currency translates into real-world money.
Digital literacy: Educate them about the digital footprint and the long-term implications of their online activities, including future job searches.
Creative use of technology: Encourage them to use digital platforms for learning, creativity, and positive self-expression.
Managing instant gratification: The ease of making online purchases can lead to impulsive spending, particularly among younger users who may not fully understand the value of money.
Building digital resilience: Help them develop skills to cope with online challenges, like handling cyberbullying or reporting inappropriate content.

Our school system in South Africa tries to educate our learners through the Life Orientation subject. However, the ultimate responsibility lies with us as parents or guardians. Establishing a healthy structure focused on the wellbeing of both the family unit and the individual is an investment worth making.

Parenting is challenging! If you need more advice or action plans to improve communication and implement healthy boundaries to protect your family, then reach out to a counsellor on WhatsApp 061 438 7903 or email help@lifeassist.co.za, and they will call you back at a convenient time.

Source: UNICEF’s SA Kids Online Study
Social Media and Youth Mental Health Advisory 2023 by the US Surgeon General

zara2024-01-31T14:49:42+00:00

Love wisely with healthy connections

What constitutes a healthy relationship? This is not just aimed at new significant partner choices but also for those who may find themselves in less-than-ideal relational dynamics. It is also true for single people looking for or creating stronger bonds. Read through these statements and see how you feel about relationship foundations.

Communication is the centre of connection
Effective communication stands at the heart of every healthy relationship. It’s about more than just talking; it’s about understanding, empathy, and expressing oneself honestly and respectfully. Encourage open and transparent conversations where both partners feel heard and valued. Remember, it’s not just about speaking; listening is equally important.

Respect is the foundation of trust
Respect in a relationship manifests in many ways. It’s about valuing each other’s opinions, privacy, and individuality. This means acknowledging differences in views, supporting each other’s goals, and refraining from belittling or demeaning each other, regardless of your beliefs.

Trust is the bond of confidence
Trust is built over time and involves believing in each other’s reliability, integrity, and character. Trust creates a safe space where vulnerability is not only allowed but encouraged to deepen your belief in one another.

Independence is the art of balancing togetherness and freedom
While togetherness is significant, maintaining your independence is also key. Ideally, this allows both partners to have their own interests, friendships, and time alone. This balance prevents co-dependency and encourages individual growth.

Conflict resolution while navigating the storms
Disagreements are natural, but how they are handled defines the health of a relationship. Approach conflicts with a problem-solving attitude, focusing on the issue at hand rather than attacking each other. Remember, the goal is not to win an argument but to resolve a disagreement and learn from it.

Emotional and physical intimacy are the ties that bind
Intimacy goes beyond physical closeness; it’s about emotional connection and vulnerability. A healthy relationship involves a comfortable and consensual expression of affection, understanding each other’s needs and boundaries, and nurturing a deep emotional connection.

Equality is the balance of power
Both partners should have equal say and respect each other’s contributions. Decisions, responsibilities, and power are shared, building a sense of fairness and mutual respect.

Support is about being each other’s cheerleader
Supporting each other through all life’s dramas is a true sign of a strong relationship. This involves offering encouragement, being present during challenging times, remaining loyal during feuds, and celebrating each other’s successes. It is also great to hear a partner speak positively, respectfully and loyally to friends and family when they are not present.

Whether you are single, embarking on a new romantic journey or in an ongoing partnership, these elements serve as guiding stars. For those in toxic relationships, recognising these traits can be the first step towards seeking healthier dynamics. A healthy relationship should uplift, empower, and bring joy to your life. Let’s look after and nurture these bonds, not just on Valentine’s Day but every day.

LifeAssist health coaches and counsellors are here to support you at work and in your personal life. You can connect individually or with your partner for couples counselling, both online and in person, and is completely confidential.

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zara2024-02-16T07:07:09+00:00

Promoting Kindness and Respect on Social Media

Social media platforms have become a significant part of our lives, connecting us with friends, family, and the wider world. However, the ease of sharing content and messages online also comes with responsibilities. We should try to create a virtual environment of kindness and respect while using these platforms. Here are some practical ideas on how to do just that.

Think Before You Post

Before hitting that “post” button, take a moment to reflect on what you’re about to share. Ask yourself if your content is respectful, considerate, and adds value. If not, reconsider whether it’s worth sharing. Remember, once something is on the internet, it can be challenging to take back.

Encourage Positive Discussions

Engage in constructive conversations that promote healthy debates and diverse perspectives. Avoid personal attacks, derogatory comments, or offensive language. Be open to learning from others and respecting their views, even if you disagree.

Fact-Check Before Sharing

Misinformation and fake news can spread rapidly on social media. Be a responsible sharer by verifying the accuracy of the information you’re about to share. Use credible sources and help combat the spread of false information.

Be Mindful of Privacy

Respect the privacy of others and yourself. Avoid sharing personal information or images of others without their consent. Think twice before posting pictures from private events or sharing personal stories that might make someone uncomfortable.

Use Empathetic Language

When responding to comments or messages, use empathetic and understanding language. If someone expresses distress or disagreement, acknowledge their feelings and respond with empathy. A little kindness can go a long way in diffusing tensions.

Report Inappropriate Content

Most social media platforms provide tools for reporting offensive or inappropriate content. Don’t hesitate to use them if you encounter posts or messages that violate community guidelines. By reporting such content, you contribute to a safer online environment.

Avoid Over-Sharing

While it’s natural to share updates about your life, avoid oversharing. Think about what is genuinely interesting or valuable to your audience, and try not to inundate them with too much information.

Educate Yourself and Others

Stay informed about online etiquette and educate others about it as well. Share articles or resources that promote responsible online behaviour. Your actions can have a positive ripple effect on your social media connections.

Be Open to Feedback

Be open to feedback if someone points out that your post or comment may have been offensive or unkind. Acknowledge your mistake, apologise if necessary, and learn from the experience.

Social media is a powerful tool that can be used to create understanding and build connections, but it’s up to each of us to ensure it’s used for good. Remember, promoting wellbeing on social media is not just about personal wellness; it’s about creating a virtual world where everyone can thrive, share, and communicate respectfully.

zara2023-10-30T15:19:02+00:00

Child Custody after Divorce or Separation: Knowing the Basics

When parents make the tough decision to separate or divorce, one of the initial concerns is which parent will have custody of the children. In the past, it was common for only one parent to have full custody while the other parent received visitation rights. However, recent years have brought significant changes to South Africa’s laws regarding children of divorced or separated parents.

Here are some essential points that parents should be aware of:

The best interest of the child: Our constitution places great emphasis on the well-being of the child when making decisions about their care and upbringing. This means that the child’s welfare should always be the top priority and outweighs the parents’ opinions or desires.

Joint custody: South African law encourages both parents to share the responsibilities and care for their children whenever possible. This means both parents should be involved in making important decisions about the child’s upbringing, and that the child can take turns to live with either parent or spend equal time with both.

Parenting plans: When parents separate or divorce, a parenting plan should be drawn up to outline the child’s residence; visitation schedule; decision-making; maintenance; education; healthcare and religious upbringing etc. These plans are helpful tools to prevent conflict, ensure stability and facilitate smooth transitions between parents.

Mediation: Instead of spending a lot of money and time on court battles to win custody, parents should consider mediation as an alternative. Mediation involves a neutral professional who assists the parents in discussing their children’s futures and reaching a mutually acceptable agreement.

Child Maintenance: Both parents have to share financial responsibility for the child’s upbringing according to their respective abilities and the child’s needs. All costs relating to a child’s care should be listed, divided by the parents, and included in the parenting plan. If parents can not come to a mutual agreement about money, they can approach the Maintenance court for a court order that specifies each parent’s financial obligations.

Visitation (or “Contact”): Children have the right to maintain a relationship with both parents (unless proven by the court not to be in the best interest of the child for one parent to have contact with the child). A parent should create opportunities for, and encourage their children to see the other parent regularly, within reasonable boundaries. It should be noted that one parent cannot deny the other parent contact with the child based solely on non-payment of maintenance.

Children’s wishes and feelings: Our Children’s Act emphasises that children have the right to be listened to and heard. Their views and preferences about arrangements after their parent’s divorce or separation matters should be taken into account to ensure they are happy with the outcome.

Unmarried biological fathers: While biological mothers and married biological fathers have automatic full parental rights and responsibilities, unmarried biological fathers do not. However, there are various ways for unmarried biological fathers to assert their full rights, such as approaching the Office of the Family Advocates or Social Worker for mediation; or approaching the court as a last resort for declaratory order of their full rights and responsibilities towards the child.

Going through a divorce or separation can be very difficult for all members of the family. If you have questions about court proceedings, maintenance, contact with the child or custody, it can be beneficial to consult with a family law attorney for an expert opinion based on your specific circumstances. Reach out to LifeAssist to get connected with a Legal consultant.

zara2023-06-30T10:18:19+00:00

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