Feel the Power of Forgiveness

Global Forgiveness Day (7 July) provides an opportunity to reflect on the transformative power of forgiveness and encourages us to let go of grudges, heal past wounds, and find peace within ourselves and our communities.

Forgiveness is more than just a noble act; it’s a vital component of mental health. Holding onto anger and resentment can lead to chronic stress, which negatively impacts our health. Studies have shown that forgiveness can reduce anxiety, depression, and stress, leading to improved heart health, better sleep, and a stronger immune system.

By choosing to forgive, we liberate ourselves from the burdens of the past, creating space for joy, peace, and a more fulfilling life. Forgiveness can have a ripple effect, for ourselves, our families and the people around us and can pave the way for mutual healing and growth.

Practising forgiveness is not always easy, but it is a skill that can be cultivated. Here are some steps to help you on your journey:

  1. Reflect: Take a moment to think about someone you need to forgive or an apology you need to make. Reflect on how holding onto anger has affected you.
  2. Acknowledge the Hurt: Recognise the pain and anger you feel. It’s essential to understand your emotions before you can release them.
  3. Commit to Forgiveness: Make a conscious decision to forgive, even if it doesn’t happen overnight. Remember, forgiveness is a process, not a one-time event.
  4. Empathise: Try to see the situation from the other person’s perspective. Understanding their motives can help you develop compassion.
  5. Express Your Feelings: Whether through writing a letter, speaking to a trusted friend, or seeking counselling, expressing your emotions can be a cathartic experience.
  6. Release the Grudge: Let go of the resentment and anger. This doesn’t mean you forget or condone the wrongdoing, but you choose to release its hold on your life.

Forgiveness is not only about others but also about self-compassion. We often hold ourselves to unrealistic standards, leading to feelings of guilt and inadequacy. Forgiving ourselves for past mistakes is a part of personal growth and wellbeing. Embrace your imperfections and learn from them, rather than allowing them to define you.

If you are struggling with situations and emotions and you would like support to let something go, then connect with a LifeAssist counsellor to move forward on your journey to peace and freedom.