“Respect your elders” is an old-fashioned phrase that connotes a stern, wrinkled face and wagging finger, but as our world becomes continuously self-centred and lackadaisical, it seems more important than ever to encourage our youth to mind their manners and honour the older generations.
Changing demographics
It used to be rare to see children and teenagers exhibit rude, disrespectful behaviour toward their elders, but society has changed. Children and teens are now rude to older people on a regular basis. From talking back to teachers to showing blatant disregard toward the elderly while in public, many young people these days don’t appear to have been taught how to respect their elders.
By the year 2050, demographers estimate that the world will contain more people over the age of 60 than children under the age of 15. It will be one of the most dramatic demographic shifts in history. This means that we have to start thinking of our older citizens less as a burden on society and more as a resource whose experience, wisdom and knowledge can be tapped not only for our and our children’s benefit, but also for the benefit of society as a whole.
Start at the beginning
Instill in your children a compassion for old age. One day you too will be old, and so will your children. Many people can be very cruel to the aged. They are often either ignored socially or not taken seriously. If their children and grandchildren start mistreating them as well, to whom can they turn?
Teach your children by example if you want them to treat their elders, including yourself, with respect. If they hear you speak rudely to your mother they will also disrespect her, and very soon, this lack of respect will extend to you. Sow the seeds of disrespect, and your children will disrespect you.
Make it a point to be patient and tolerant with the aged, especially in front of your children. While old people can often become difficult to be around as they are frustrated with having to depend on others, having the love and respect of one’s children and grandchildren can make old age a wonderful time.
Teach your children that all older people want is respect, love and company. Chances are they have a lot of knowledge and memories to share with whoever has the time or inclination to listen to them. How often do you spend time sitting and talking to your grandmother? Do this now, take your children with you, and not only will you brighten someone’s day, but chances are, when you reach a ripe old age, you will have your grandchildren paying you regular visits as well. Could you wish for a better retirement plan?
Sources
http://familyshare.com
www.froddo.com
www.ourkidsmagazine.com
Revised by M van Os