It comes as no surprise that in just about all studies done to establish the issues couples most argue about, homework chores reach the number two spot on the list, ranking second only to money as a source of friction for couples.

No longer women’s work

In this day and age, to argue that housework is women’s work is so outdated that this argument almost doesn’t warrant any further discussion. Yet, despite their arguments otherwise, many men still have this view and see their roles as mainly that of breadwinner. Or they truly hold the modern view but don’t realise just how little they actually do to help around the house.

Unless it is mutually and happily agreed between the two partners in a couple that the housework is the sole responsibility of one partner, the chores around the house should be divided and shared equally between both partners.

Tips on dividing chores

    • Make a comprehensive list of all the chores that need doing and divide the tasks. A good system is to decide who does what according to likes and dislikes, or each partner’s talents.
    • If there are chores you both dislike, consider hiring outside help to get these done.
    • Both partners’ time is precious and both partners deserve time out or time to themselves. No one’s time is more important; higher earning power or more responsibility at work has no bearing on this.
    • A schedule or work plan, even a loose one, will prevent nagging and bickering about when each partner is supposed to do his or her assigned tasks.
    • Leave each other to get on with it. Resist being a know-it-all who constantly fires advice or looks over your partner’s shoulder.