Going through a divorce is one of life’s most stressful events. Even when the split is amicable, many adjustments need to be made. Don’t allow your pending divorce to jeopardize your job.

Here’s how to stay focused on your career even though your world seems shattered.

    • Notify your supervisor. Let your supervisor know that you’re dealing with some personal challenges and that you might need to take an hour or two off work now and again to consult with your attorney.
    • Limit divorce-related messages. Avoid bringing drama from your personal life into your workplace by blocking communication with your ex-to-be while at work. This means no calls, texts or emails.
    • Be productive. Use your time at work to take a break from your personal turmoil. Concentrate on one task at a time.
    • Take emotional breaks. During lunch, write down a few sentences on how you’re feeling. By giving yourself permission to reflect, you won’t be distracted all day trying to ignore your emotions. After work, talk through what you’ve written with a friend who preferably does not work at the same place as you do.
    • Have realistic expectations about your emotions. It’s normal to feel everything from rage to enormous relief. Even if you’re not angry, divorce is a major life change and it may take time to adjust to your loss of a relationship.
    • Take good care of your health. Eat a well-balanced diet and consider replenishing the B-complex vitamins that your body could quickly diminish when under stress. Be sure to exercise and get enough sleep – you’ll wake up more refreshed to tackle your job the next day.

Do you and your ex-to-be work at the same place?

Having to see your ex-to-be at work every day is a lot more difficult. The following tips may help you get through this challenge:

    • Keep things professional. Don’t badmouth your ex-to-be and don’t involve your colleagues in your divorce.
    • Be discreet. If it’s impossible to avoid one another while at work, don’t be tempted to discuss the divorce – only discuss matters concerning work.
    • If you find that in spite of taking these steps you still having trouble coping, seek help from a professional counsellor or your employee assistance programme. A counsellor can help you cope with the painful feelings you’re experiencing.

 

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