Want to do something special for your wife on Mother’s Day? Read on…

What Mother’s Day is all about

In South Africa, Mother’s Day is celebrated on the second Sunday in the month of May. It is mostly a family affair when moms are usually presented with a card, gift and flowers and then taken out to lunch. There is, however, an alternative to the usual Mother’s Day celebrations for those who want to walk the extra mile and treat their wives like a queen for the day!

What women want

Women want to be loved, appreciated and acknowledged. The best way to do this, especially on Mother’s Day, is to express these sentiments in a language she understands. According to Gary Chapman author of The five love languages, couples rarely have the same love language and that is where all the disappointments and misunderstandings about gifts and expressions of love and appreciation come from.

The five love languages are:

    • Words of affirmation
    • Spending quality time together
    • Giving gifts
    • Physical touch
    • Acts of service.

Finding out what her love language is can change an ordinary Mother’s Day into a day your wife will remember forever.

Ten ways to treat your wife like a queen on Mother’s Day

1. Tell her that you love her
Women never tire of hearing those three words. Make her day by saying it, singing it, writing it and sealing it with a kiss.

2. Show her you love her
The Mother’s Day memories that a woman treasures most are the special ways in which her loved ones show they care. Think of ways to spoil her. Give her breakfast in bed, run a bath for her with bubble bath, candles and music and give her a surprise Mother’s Day massage to start the day. Plan something interesting and out of the norm for the rest of the day.

3. Romance her
Many wives are desperate for some form of romance and physical attention (not necessarily sex). Just putting an arm around her shoulders or pulling her close, stroking her back, touching her hair, holding her hand or giving her a peck on the cheek will fulfil this need.

4. Give her your undivided attention
Undivided attention means focused attention, eye contact and really listening to her when she talks. Encourage her to talk about herself and her feelings. You may be surprised by what she reveals.

5. Give her quality time
Mother’s Day is all about quality time, being together, doing things together and focusing on one another. Stay close to her and be attentive to her every need.

6. Do something practical for her
The best thing you can do for her on Mother’s Day is to give her a break. Get the kids together and do the little things that keep her so busy every day such as tidying up, cooking and cleaning.

7. Honour and respect her
If you want your wife to feel like a queen on Mother’s Day, honour and respect her and tell the children and the rest of the family just how important she is and how much you value and appreciate her.

8. Have fun and make her laugh
Women love men who make them laugh. Cultivate a sense of humour (see the article Cultivate a sense of humour) and help her relax and have fun.

9. Give her a gift
Gifts can send a powerful message of love and remembrance. Make sure they are personal and special. Take the trouble to listen to her when she mentions something she would love to have, especially when you are out window shopping. Get the children involved and encourage them to make their own Mother’s Day gifts such as a handmade card, drawing or decorated certificate saying how much she is appreciated and that she is the best mom in the world. These are often the gifts most treasured by moms.

10. Say thank you
Thank your wife for all the small acts of kindness in which she shows her love for you and your children every day.

 

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Stritof, B. & Stritof, S. ‘The five love languages’ can help you connect with one another. Retrieved from: http://marriage.about.com/cs/communicationkeys/a/lovelanguage.htm
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