Mothers make an indelible imprint on the lives of their sons. Every interaction a mother has with her son has the potential to shape his perspective and impact his future relationships.
Mama’s boy
The “mama’s boy” perception describes a young man who has been overly “softened” by his mother’s doting attention – but far from making boys weak and dependent, the unselfish love of a mother actually makes boys stronger, emotionally and psychologically. The base of safety that a loving mother creates (a connection that her son can rely on all his life) provides a boy with the courage to explore the outside world. Far from making a boy act like a girl, a loving mother actually plays an integral role in helping a boy develop his masculinity.
Embrace your differences
Mothers will never fully understand what their sons go through as they grow from little boys to grown men – but that’s all right. Trying too hard to relate to a son can cause an incredible amount of stress and leave a mother feeling inadequate and confused. Rather embrace your differences. Realise that you are raising someone who is different from you, who will think, reason and communicate differently than you do. Understanding boy energy, adventure needs, how to build a son’s confidence and differences in communication styles goes a long way toward a healthy relationship. Soak in all of the wonderful qualities that make boys tick and learn from them. I’m convinced that if I had half of my sons’ fearlessness, the world would be a better place.
Communicate
Creating time for a daily chat is a simple way to keep communication open. This can be a time to discuss feelings as well as affirm and validate your son’s experiences. The appropriate sharing of your own feelings can teach your son about women. Naming feelings and expressing compassion for hurt feelings build self-esteem. Become involved in your son’s interests and react authentically to what he sees and experiences. These interactions create many meaningful conversations and opportunities to share different points of view. Sons can indeed become sensitive and caring without becoming sissies.
Time to say goodbye
As your son grows, you will learn to find the balance between offering support and stepping back to let him learn from his own experiences and mistakes. One of the paradoxes of parenting is that if you do your job as a mother well, your son will eventually leave you. Clinging too tightly can create unnecessary power struggles. Teach skills, listen well and often; then have faith in your son and let go.
Source
http://life.familyeducation.com
www.connectioncenter.net
www.sheknows.com